以雜誌形式專訪不同時期在兒家生活的院友，眼中的「家」
一起承傳培育使命
無家孩子眼中的家
孩子回饋愛的故事
- 不同身份有義的人，承傳培育使命的分享
- 孩子變家長、孩子變社工，回饋愛的故事
- 家裡發生的二三事：有的結成連理枝、有慶幸逃不出這個家、有的在這個家出嫁
60th Anniversary Ministry Sharing
六十週年籌委小組訂定主題為「薪伙傳家愛」，表達了承傳福音使命，需要結連福音「夥(伙)伴」，包括堂會、熱心贊助的商界和朋友，攜手同行，向社會傳遞家庭的「愛」。
11月17日晚上，我們安排了異象分享晚會，邀請各介襄助，一起幫助孩子建立他們的「第二人生」。
Recurit – 院舍家長愛很大 專訪宿舍家長郭麗君
想投身社福界，除了做社工、福利工作員、活動幹事，還有甚麼工種? 只要有心入行，自能發掘更多事業機會。兒童和青少年院舍有類獨特職人叫「家長」，他們肩負照顧孩子重任，每天工作要付出非一般愛心。
郭麗君在家是一名孩子的母親，但當她回到工作崗位，則變身一群孩子的家長。2018年，她辭去原本工作，踏進社福界，事業180度轉型，成為播道兒童之家宿舍家長。「起初我想，自己本身是媽咪，懂得湊孩子，也很喜歡小朋友，工作應駕輕就熟不太難，但入職後發覺情況跟想像不同，因照顧12個孩子挑戰頗大，這邊喧鬧，那邊吵架，像管弦樂團一樣，有時都幾頭痛！但工作讓我找到獨特使命和意義，與孩子建立感情更是無價。」
事業轉型愛心工作
播道兒童之家隸屬中國基督教播道會，成立於1956年，為有需要兒童和青少年提供院護服務，創辦人為美國播道會西教士申路得（Ruth Sundquist）。郭麗君說，院舍孩子背景各有不同，有些是孤兒，有些來自破碎家庭，被疏忽照顧、被虐待。部分孩子有特殊學習需要（SEN），患過度活躍症和自閉症等。「有時他們會發脾氣，情緒起伏頗大。照顧他們，你要有耐性，付出額外的愛心。」
「當初也沒想過入行當家長，這是奇妙的安排。」郭麗君曾從事時裝採購工作多年，晚晚OT捱更抵夜。「有種營營役役而不知為何的感覺，很想尋找別的工作意義。後來採購業走下坡，公司也結束了，但我沒不開心，反有種釋懷的感覺，可重新開始。」後來轉行從事顧客服務工作1年，機緣巧合得悉播道兒童之家招聘宿舍家長，於是決定一試。
多功能家長
院舍分為男女不同的家，各有家長當值，家長照顧孩子生活，每周有3天在家舍留宿，和孩子同吃同住。「我會形容自己是多功能家長，朝早照料他們吃早餐上學，待他們放學回來為他們補習，有時兼顧生命導師開解安慰他們。若他們吵架，則要充當調解員。到了晚上，則變身助理，替孩子執拾書包，為水壺裝水，準備翌日的零食……所以話，家長真係一職多能。」
「愛自己親生孩子容易，愛別人孩子需要付出更大愛心。以生命影響生命，是工作最大意義。」不少孩子因自小缺乏愛，不易信人，且會鬧情緒，她初入職時，有些孩子對她不瞅不睬，甚至大聲罵她。打開孩子心窗，靠日積月累關懷，點點滴滴付出愛。
付出愛心建關係
有位讀小五男生，來自破碎家庭，宿舍容許周六日回家「度假」，但他每次回到院舍也不太開心。「有晚他回來說還未吃飯，因媽媽沒為他做飯，整天只塞1個杯麵給他。他又很想洗澡，因媽媽不停吸煙，弄得他一身煙味。他洗完澡後，我拿風筒為他吹頭。他望著我說：媽媽從沒為我吹頭。」
自此，孩子慢慢打開心扉，與她建立關係。「他每晚臨睡前會來找我，問我可否和他傾偈，他會和我分享心中擔憂與不快。我會慢慢安慰他，然後一同祈禱。」
兩月後聖誕節，孩子為她送上聖誕卡。「他在卡上寫道，沒想過我能在家舍工作超過1個月，謝謝我和他聊天，祝我工作愉快。雖然是張小小聖誕卡，但代表著孩子心意。和孩子建立感情，就是工作最佳回報。」
如今工作近兩年，正修讀輔導學，希望能更好地幫助孩子。這位不一樣家長，有這樣的體會。「養兒一百歲，長憂九十九，親生孩子可用一生照顧，但照顧院舍孩子，不知能和他們相處多久，所以要把握時間，用愛心照顧教導，希望他們生命變得更好。」
播道兒童之家
播道兒童之家始於1956年，服務來自破碎家庭的兒童和青少年。機構提供3大服務：「兒童院護服務」、「兒童日間院護服務（SEN學齡支援計劃）」、「青少年家舍服務（第二人生助跑計劃）」。機構聘有社工、宿舍家長、活動幹事等人手。若有志成為家長，需心智成熟，對兒童有愛心和耐性，具心理學及兒童成長知識更佳。
Recruit記者：甄榮康
《Life Renewal》 – Leo
Leo, a former resident of the youth home, attended the “2nd Chance in Life – Youth Ministry” kick-off ceremony to inspire other young people with life renewal testimony.
Struggles in Personal Growth
Leo grew up in a traditional family. His father is strict, and he would discipline him by beating and scolding. In order to reduce conflicts, he avoided the father who came back in shifts at night. Starting when he was young, he would sleep with his head before 11 o’clock every night. When he did something wrong, he was beaten by his father, and there was case that he was admitted to hospital for stitches. Later, he was referred by a social worker to live in the youth home of the Evangelical Children’s Home. From that time, he had to rely on his own ability to make ends meet. At that time, he just graduated from high school and failed to enter university. For the sake of his future, he took IVE Advanced Diploma course during the day and worked at night to make a living. Even though the social worker suggested him to apply for CSSA, he refused. He led a busy life of self-improvement and self-reliance every day, and he never looked back to the past, nor remembered who he loved or hated.
Turing Point in Life
It was God’s plan for staying in the youth home. There were other home alternatives at that time, but I moved into the youth home of the Evangel Children’s Home. He was invited by his family mentor to participate in an evangelistic fellowship with Tung Fook Kowloon East Church to learn about the gospel. During the period, he heard a sermon that touched his heart deeply. The content was roughly to remind that living a Christian life should follow bible and act like Jesus. The two passages of Scripture were like fists into his heart:
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”
Matthew 7:3
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.
Matthew 5:23-24
Reconciliation of Relationship
As time passed by, he thought he should have let go of his past pains and forgave his father. It was not until one time the pastor prayed for him and gave him a hug like a father, which softened his heart. When the pastor said “I’m sorry” on behalf of his father, Leo burst into tears because he hadn’t has such beloved feeling for a long time. The feeling of “love”, the Holy Spirit reminded him to forgive his Dad verbally, and to express it from the bottom of his heart. Indeed, there is no denying the fact that parent-child relationship is an ironclad DNA, and the Ten Commandments of the Bible also state: “Honor your parents so that you are blessed.”
A strange thing happened. After a few weeks, when he returned home for dinner with his mother, his father asked him if he no longer recognized him as his father. At this moment, he finally understood why he was moved to forgive his father when he ran that day. It was no coincidence. , God has already prepared. On that night, their father and son broke through the long-frozen iceberg and repaired the relationship between father and son. When you “really” “from the heart” forgive your father and repair your relationship with your father, you can share your heartfelt feelings with each other frankly and feel relieved.
After sharing his testimony at the “2nd Chance in Life – Youth Ministry” kick-off ceremony, Leo embraced his father and was much moved. Dr. Choi Yuen Wan prayed for them after the event.
恩雨之聲 – 恩雨同路人第411集 – 青年家舍導師余燕芬生命見證
『在商界打滾多年的余燕芬（Stephanie），在一次偶然的機會下，與一班年青人接觸，觸發她轉換人生跑道的念頭。她按著心中的感動，加入播道兒童之家，用自己的經歷和同理心，與一班青少年同笑同哭同行，陪伴他們成長路上，找到自己的使命和方向，讓每個獨特的生命都可以發揮所長。』( 節錄自恩雨之聲)
Stephanie，成長自缺失的家庭，對爸爸印象不深，媽媽忙於工作，很少時間相處，記憶中只有罵、管教嚴謹。自小與家人關係疏離、成長歷程充滿反叛與挑戰，所以很理解青年人受著原生家庭影響，情緒表現會變得反覆和不由自主，盼藉著自己經歷，給他們作榜樣，陪伴他們走出傷痛。
分享點滴：
- 看到婆婆目不識丁也堅持不間斷返教會、姐姐回流返港熱切的傳福音，感受上帝祝福她的家人，信主後生命得以轉化，有能力承擔對人的工作。
- 一位家舍青年的媽媽再婚，當時的她，工作和讀書不如意，很掛念媽媽但得不到回覆，Stephanie想起自己過去的經歷，與青年一起禱告、讀聖經、陪伴同行。在翌日，青年人收到媽媽的電話，感受到天父聽禱告，Stephanie明白到更要關顧他們的需要。
- 因過往任職不同商界範疇，這些經驗幫助家舍青年進入職場，並結連企業合作，提供職場培訓機會，讓青年學習責任、自律，增強個人自信。
恩雨同路人第411集 – 青年家舍導師余燕芬生命見證
點擊重溫：https://www.sobem.org.hk/audioAutoPlayList.php?radio=media_fellow&aid=412 或http://www.metroradio.com.hk/MetroFinance/Program/ProgramDetail.aspx?Program=CHRP
恩雨之聲 – 恩雨有情天 無家孩子的導航者
播道兒童之家院長羅美珍，二十多年來鍥而不捨地為破碎家庭的孩子提供溫暖而安全的成長環境，用愛培育生命。
近年院舍又伙拍專業人士引入「2R」計劃，在適當的時間為孩子提供適切的幫助，讓他們得著健康的全人發展。
筆者: 甄敏宜
恩雨有情天 無家孩子的導航者
https://www.sobem.org.hk/edm/pdf/SingPao20200302.pdf
《A Different Growth Path》 Supporter and Chak Kwai
Chak Kwai, who had left Evangel Children’s Home admitted to the Chinese University of Hong Kong to study Information Engineering four years ago. He has achieved a lot today. He has been working in the IT field for half a year. Graduated with first-class honors and stepped into the workplace, Chak Kwai is grateful for God’s guidance and care. He also thank for the supporters. “Only relying on your own ability is unmanageable.” Chak Kwai humbly shared his path of growth that was full of grace.
Earlier, he made a special trip back to the Evangel Children’s Home to meet up with superintendent, the trustee of Yuk Ching Charity Trust which sponsored him tutorials, the house parents, social workers and the DSE students of the home. Precious memories are around corners in the home. This “home” has witnessed the love of Heavenly Father, and the staff healed his childhood trauma with love. In a stable environment, he can plan for his career development.
Due to illness, Chak Kwai’s family member was unable to take care of him. He began to move into the Evangel Children’s Home in Form 2. At that time, he refused to open up himself. He was restrained and found it hard to communicate with others. In retrospect, the house parents described him as “unable to be connected”. Onson, the house parent, has an unyielding will to serve and bring changes to the children with love, time and patience. On the day of the home reunion, Onson described Chak Kwai as responsible and hard-working that he earned a living with part-time job. He is well-prepared for future, diligent and studious, and admired him in giving back to Evangel Children’s Home as volunteer. This beloved “Dad” who is not his biological father, always sees the merits of him.
At the reunion, the memories came to life. Onson had been taking care of Chak Kwai at the Peter House for many years. Onson had evening prayers by bedside with him, asking him to entrust his troubles to his heavenly Father; serving him with desert when he studied at late night. Chak Kwai responded inadvertently and truly, saying, “As long as it is made by Onson, it is delicious.” What a heartwarming response!
Onson and Chak Kwai are in ties like “father and son”. Though he has left the home, Onson still cares about him. This “Home” is filled with extra love because God is love.
