《Something You Don’t Know》 – My Boy

One day’s afternoon

Social worker: “Boy, you may try to join the uniform team…? “

Mom: “Miss Chan, something you don’t know…. I have tried before; everyone receives the notice of application, except my boy.  They told me he’s not suitable… “

Another day’s afternoon

Social worker: “How’s your boy doing in school recently? “

Mom: “Miss Chan, something you don’t know… he kicked his teacher… kept watched by TA (teacher’s assistant)… not attending class at all…”

Another day’s afternoon

Social worker: “There will be some summer classes coming.  Does your boy take any interest class before? “

Mom: “Miss Chan, something you don’t know… I did apply the class for him at another center before, however he’s rejected at once… they said it’s lack of manpower to have one-on-one service… the activity is only designed for general kids…anyway, not suitable at all…”

Being rejected again and again, those parents whose children being ADHD and moderate autism and also studying in traditional primary school are truly helpless.  “Something you don’t know…” – this indicates how isolating and helpless of their situation and how they are misunderstood enduringly.

However, parents find it difficult to find a way out. Community Centers in general fail to provide appropriate services; those grassroots families cannot afford the expensive private tutor fees, while, the units that provide children’s rehabilitation services mainly serve pre-school or special schools children. These parents, whose children are within this gap, often feel frustrated.

Evaluation after 3 months

Social worker : “How’s your boy after joining our service for 3 months?"

Mom: Miss Chan, I’m so grateful my boy can join the service here.  He can finish the homework before he gets back home.  I need not to struggle with him about doing homework… he likes coming here… he even tells me about the pals he meets here…”

Social worker: “After evaluate the adaptability and our situation… (tears came up in mom’s eyes) we are confident that we can take good care of your boy.  He can stay here after this trial period.”

Mom: “Thank you so much!!!”

Acceptance, care and patience allow children to grow up at their own pace” – this is very important for both children and parents. SEN Service never has such ‘magic’ to change children, it’s only love and acceptance is the ways out for children to change.

Love in the Epidemic

There has always been a demand for services for the children of working families.  It is especially difficult for SEN children to find suitable service due to their special learning needs. However, this plague of the century (COVID-19) seemed to stop all activities.  When the Education Bureau suspended classes in a short time, no support for child care services is provided to working families in need.  It’s even worse that general care services and tutorial classes were suspended, too.  In order to earn living, how can those parents just stay at home for taking care of their children without going to work?  Taking into account the needs of grassroots working families, the “S.E.N. School Age Support Program” of Evangel Children’s Home insists in providing whole-day service to working families, from Monday to Saturday, so that parents can go to work with ease.

At the same time, we also provide half-day care services for children from non-working families on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, so that children can keep learning under school suspension. The tutors follow up the children’s online learning, so the children can catch up when classes resume later.  Also, the children can learn life skills as well.  We cherish every moment of their growth.

Companion and support during the epidemic is our promise. We wish to be the second home of SEN children in the community, responding to the Lord’s call with service.

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”

(Matthew 19:14)
Life skills training: The first self-repair shirt in life
Self-cooking training: Japanese Curry Omurice

香港經濟日報 – 陪伴青年過渡逆境 –羅美珍院長分享

播道兒童之家一直為 6-18歲孤兒、來自破碎或困難家庭的兒童及青少年提供院護服務。2009年試辦青年過渡期住宿試驗計劃,但滿了18歲成年的院童便需要離開。當中有不少青年是無家可歸,甚或有家歸不得,面對高昂的租金、被迫獨立生活,徬徨無助。

院長羅美珍早在十多年前已有感這些青年的困境,開始試辦青年過渡期住宿計劃,好讓他們能在成長路上跑得更穩妥。

家舍以兩人一房,生活起居要大家學習互相遷就。

羅美珍院長說在香港18歲便是法定成年人,但在她眼裏這些成年人仍是「小朋友」。這些因着複雜家庭背照的弱勢青年不僅要面對仕屋問題,身處香港這個知識型的經濟社會,低學歷、低收入、甚至失業失學的青年,實在是需要我們「大人」更多的關注。

發展青年家舍服務

「我聽過不少離開院舍的青年人慘況,其中有位女生因沒有家庭支援,只能租住大角咀的板間房,地方狹小骯髒不在話下,兼且品流複雜,實在不宜女生獨居。後來因我們有董事是工程師,發現播道兒童之家的地積比率尚未用盡,所以有在原址加建的想法,增加過渡宿位給有需要的家舍青年,一來舒緩租金壓力,幫助他們過渡獨立生活;二來因為他們沒有家人在情感上的支援,我們本着父母心,關顧他們的住宿問題外,同時滿足他們情感上的需要。」羅院長說。

所以早在2009年,播道兒童之家已開始試辦青年過渡期住宿試驗計劃,到2011-2018年持續發展青年家舍服務,直到2018年更積極拓展「第二人生助跑計劃」。後者是想更全面照顧到這些住在家舍青年的其他成長需要。

家舍內有共用的大廳。

第二人生助跑計劃

她解釋:「經過約10年的青年家舍住宿服務,總括經驗,這些青年能有一處安定的容身之所,的確能為他們減輕大部分的經濟壓力,讓他們的過渡期帶來安穩。跟着我們便要想如何再在他們的第二人生中,多點扶持他們。」

因此他們設計「第二入生助跑計劃」,幫助入住的青年面對升學和就業的問題,和他們規劃職涯,接受獨立生活的訓練,裝備好自己來應付日後的社會生活。

「個人成長和獨立生活訓練是必要的,例如自助煮食、家務、理財儲蓄、個人化的社交發展和人際溝通等,就是沒有父母可從小身教的示範,所以以上一切都需要由家舍導師負責。但始終導師的教導有限,當中亦需要一些外間的人際網絡作溝通支援,讓他們多接觸不同的人,建立屬於自己的朋友圈,建立自信。」羅院長解釋。

獨立的生活訓練是必須的,讓他們學懂基本的烹飪、打理家務等。
大樓(右前方) 是新建家舍,爭多年來此計劃惠及了百多位有需要的青年人。
明白到這班青年自小缺乏正常的家庭關係,自信心弱、家舍導師都會定期舉辦一些情緒及壓力管理班,和他們分享。
家舍導師會定期為青年人舉辦一些生活技能輔導班,如學習工作態度等。

建立關懷網絡

所以計劃中會有一具體項目—「生命師傅」,即能陪伴青年成長、生命同行,是家舍導師以外的同路人。「這幾年我們和各大小教會招募有心人,大部分都是資深的基督徒夫婦,他們有教會的推薦,而又願意義務為這些青年人服務,以他們多年的社會人生經驗,向青年人分享,加上是父母,在培育子女上都有一定的心得,他們會定期有一些家聚、外出聚餐或活動等,讓青年人能感受一下家的感覺,從中得到一些心靈慰藉。」

羅院長在此工作了20多年,身體力行,結婚後一家四口都住在播道兒童之家,陪伴過不少院童長大,感受至深。「很多人都說家庭悲劇是會一代代地延續,我也認同。所以既然我們能預見到,便要盡力把悲劇在這一代停止。這就是我常說的:如果在這些青年踏進第二人生路上作他們的扶持者,大家都多走一里路,結果或許可以截然不同。」

「生命師傅」計劃,和教會的導師合作,讓家舍青年人可擴闊社交圈,建立良好的關懷網絡。

深刻個案

最後,羅院長引述了一宗令她印象深刻且欣慰的個案。阿明因為家中虐兒個案而入住播道兒童之家,讀書雖不佳但很懂事,18歲離院後嘗試回家居住,怎料住不了兩、三個月,母親將他的行李扔出家門,無助下只好向社工求助。入住了青年家舍一年左右便轉往青年社區共住單位。(青年社區共住服務是播道兒童之家與愛心業主合作,用低廉的租金約二千元,租給有需要的青少年。)

「阿明在我們幫助下解決了住屋需要,同時展開半工讀生涯,一邊從事晚間鐵路維修工作,一邊進修,由毅進文憑讀起,希望用十年時間完成有關工程的學位課程。他離開院舍至今已有四年,半工讀的生活雖然辛苦,但總算成功開闢了前路。」

轉載自香港經濟日報–C3親子廊
撰文記者:郭秀芳
相片: 黃建輝攝或院舍提供

《Lovely Mini Little Story》 – Ngor Jei & Tsz Ying

“Did Ngor Jei admit to the hospital?” Tsz Ying from Day Care Centre ask Ngor Jei, our administrative worker, with care and worry.

Ngor Jei got injured on the forehead and she took a few days sick leave.  During these few days, Tsz Ying worried about her and missed her.  

A simple greeting from this little girl did make Ngor Jei moved.

Ngor Jei ‘s love for children has accumulated bit by bit in her life and this little girl does reserve a place in her heart.  The heart of a child is pure, when love presents she responds love.

A greeting + a hug = more love at our ECH home.

《 ‘Walk’ with the Foster Youth and ‘Support’ for a ‘Second Chance in Life’ 》 – Sally

By Emma Leung, Youth Ministry in Charge of Evangel Children’s Home

Sally had been staying Evangel Children’s Home ever since Primary 6. By Form 5, she left school without taking the DSE because she could not catch up with the studies. “At that time, I was confused and didn’t know where to go. And my parents suffer from mental illness, it was difficult for me to go home and live with them.” Sally said, frowning, and said sadly.

I don’t know how to get started

At that time, Sally was young, had no working experience, and was unable to return home to live, so she applied for admission to the Youth Hostel of our Evangel Children’s Home. “I change from a full-time student to a vocational youth status. At that time, I am nervous and stressed, and I don’t know how to get started. I have to face employment, earn a living, cope with life issues, be responsible for my life, and have to start a new chapter of my life. But I am not ready.” Sally described her mood at the time. Fortunately, the youth service tutor mastered Sally’s situation, and before she officially joined the workforce, she looked for internship opportunities and applied for salary allowances. There was also career coach who taught Sally how to perform at work and to help her adapt to her new status.

Take the first step

“The youth service tutor helps me find a job to work as a Program Assistant in an E.F.C.C. Family & Community Service Center. Even though I have no idea about the job, I have to try and take a first step.” Sally was happy about her taking the first step. This was a breakthrough for her. During that six-month internship, Sally found that she was not initiative enough and her communication was not clear enough. She believed that she had to learn to be patient, communicate with others, be responsible and be punctual and follow rules.

Inspiring growth experience

Looking back the life at ECH more than ten years before, Sally frankly stated that she was not used to manage money, “In the life at ECH in the school period, I don’t need to worry about money, because the foster home parents will give me pocket money every day, and I don’t have to plan. While transiting to youth hostel, I have to learn to be independent, to be responsible for my own living, think cautiously about how to use money, to allocate savings, shopping, living expenses etc. I’m really not used to it.”  In the past two and a half years, the Youth Home Tutor set up a monthly savings target and expenses limit with Sally, so as to reserve for living in future.

 “I never understand the establishment of interpersonal relationships and the communication skills. The Youth Home Tutor will take the initiative to talk to me, try to understand what I think, guide me to have a deal with others, teach me how to express myself, take the initiative to coordinate with other flat-mates and accommodate each other. I used to be persistent, but now I learn to accept it because people are not perfect. I used to cry and lose my temper to express my emotions, but now I learn to express it with words. The instructor will teach me to take a deep breath and relax myself, which can immediately relieve stress”, Sally reviewed on her changes.

When Sally is relaxed at home, she and the tutor rap talk to encourage each other…

Go Go Go, Looking For Jesus
Less Less Dislike, More Courage   
Try Your Best, Not To Despise Yourself
Less Less Desire, More More Hope, We Shall Look Back Later

Emma (Left) and Sally (Right)

Postscript

Young people always face the stage of confusion and bumps in the face of independent life and growth. Most importantly, young people should be ready with the willingness to start a “second life”, try new things and be responsible for themselves. We thank so much Fu Tak Iam Foundation, co-op partners, associated churches, donors and volunteers, for the opportunities given to our foster youth, the “supporting” them and “walking” with them. We wish the “Second Chance in Life” – Transitional Youth Sponsorship Program could bless more youth in need.

60th Anniversary Thanksgiving Worship

2016年11月12日 這是耶和華所定的日子,我們要歡喜快樂!

兒童之家六十年來滿載上帝的恩典,院友、同工、孩子、好友一同聚集,用歌聲同心讚美天父,又一起數算天父的愛,願頌讚榮耀全歸天父。

「大班」(60年前第一批收納的孩子)由世界各地返回香港與大家團聚,我們相聚於恩泉堂-大家都很熟悉的地方,一起讚美神,數算神的恩典!

60th Anniversary Exhibition and Service Sharing

播道兒童之家60周年相片展覽暨服務分享

本院為慶祝創立60周年,於本年度舉行一連串慶祝活動。「60周年相片展覽暨服務分享」是我們第一個慶祝活動。在7月9日及8月13日下午,我們接待了助養人,友好、家屬、義工、個別支持者來到我們當中,分享我們的成果和喜悅! 

昔日創辦人申路得姑娘與第一批孩子的大型照片放在入口處附近,讓大家也感受一下當年的這個大家庭的氣氛。六十年是一個不短的日子,我們選了一些精彩相片,放在兒家時間長廊,簡單握要地介紹本院服務之進程,一同見證天父對我們的大愛。

當日我們安排了參觀新大樓的設施與服務, 來賓參觀了「全年無休」的日間院護服務及需求日趨殷切之青年宿舍服務。

最後還有孩子表演及服務使用者的分享。感謝來賓蒞臨,給予孩子們的支持和鼓勵。我們會繼續努力,讓神的愛延續下去。