Friday Afternoon
Staff said, “Mama, you have to wait a little longer…, your daughter’s homework is not completed yet. There is a lot of homework today.”
Mama smiled, “No problem. When she returns home, she couldn’t do it at all…”
Friday Evening
Staff said, “Mama, please expect to pick her up at 6:30pm the earliest. There is usually a lot of homework on Fridays. ”
Mama smiled, “It doesn’t matter. I can wait. She will not finish at home.”
Staff said, “Thanks for waiting. You have to wait a little longer. There is one more to be finished.”
Mama smiled, “It is fine. It is better to wait. At least she has something to submit in school.”
The word “waiting” is not strange to parents of SEN (Special Education Needs) children. In particular, children suffering from problems with concentration seem to be “born without ears” that they are inattention to instructions. They can sit alone for half a day facing their homework untouched. Due to the lack of strength of their small muscles, writing is as difficult as “carrying buckets of mud on their shoulders”. Repetitive and intensive writing to them is like “farmers raking the field”. Many adults misinterpret these children as “lazy”, “uncooperative” or even deliberately confrontational.
When caregivers scream and roar anxiously, children will be frightened. In this case, with her serious lack of concentration and writing too slowly, her daughter has already scared away many tutoring agencies. A private tutor even resigned right after the second lesson.
The Bible says “children are a heritage from the Lord…” (Psalm 127:3). Children are human beings with flesh, blood and feelings, and they should be respected and protected by their parents.
In order to reduce parent-child conflict and the pressure of supervising homework, parents and caregivers can play the role of “waiting” when appropriate. This is also a kind of love and care to the children so they can enjoy their time together.
The Day Care Services (”S.E.N. 2.0” – Integrated Service) of Evangel Children’s Home is family-focused, children-oriented and community-based. We serve SEN primary school students and their working parents. We dedicate to becoming the SEN children’s second home in the community.
