《Transformation of a “Street Kid”》– Zimei

Zimei, the ex-resident of Children’s Home Care, had been a “street kid”. She rode her bike daily, without a life direction and would go home only when exhausted. She was grateful for staying at Evangel Children’s Home (ECH) where she learned about rules, procedures, responsibility, and life planning.

Zimei’s parents passed away one after another, worse still, she faced the aging out from children home at the age of 18 that she had to live on her own. She did not dwell on self-pity. Though she has to earn a living and support herself for studies, she will work hard to live up to those who love her as there are still many kind-hearted supporters around. With an optimistic personality, she boosts positive energy to set off for a new life.

Growth in Adversity

Due to the poor self-care ability of her parents, the new born Zimei was unable to be taken care off. She was arranged to live in a foster home till the age of 10.  According to Zimei’s description, she was under strict supervision from the foster auntie at the foster family. She had been punished to kneel and be beaten as long as it did not suit her or for no reason. But whenever there was Social Welfare Department staff’s home visit, foster auntie became gentle, would manage household work, prepare greeting snacks. After the staff was left, she turned back to her original style.  Zimei‘s parents had limitations on abilities, and found it hard to voice out for her. In the absence of love and care, hardly could she know what family was all about.

New Discovery

One year after leaving the foster family, she moved into ECH. At ECH, children generally resist being regulated; however, Zimei was willing to accept, so that she could feel loved.

Her living experience and potentials was a discovery after she moved in. Zimei was surprised to know that shower gel could be “foamed” and “scented”; she never tried these products because her parents did not know how to take care of her. With funding solicited from ECH, she had the opportunity to learn piano to actualize her music talent, and she took less than half a year to pass the fifth-level piano exam. Tutor also helped explore her artistic potential, and guided her on visual arts studies and career planning.

Accompanying Transition

Parents’ passing away one after another at upper secondary school had been a double blow to her. What was more, she had to take DSE exam. She was helpless. Thankfully, with the support from all folks at ECH, she could finally overcome. Zimei would like to thank specially “Chung”, the house parent, who always resonated with her that she could always feel at ease; “Loretta”, the counselor, who guided her like a mother, planned the way out and regulated the emotions with her. Bearing the childhood trauma, it is grateful that there are people around to care for, rely on, and to accompany at the transitional stage. She could then muster up the courage to face the rugged path of life ahead. 

Transforming Life

Zimei always stays calm, overcomes difficulties with courage, and gains strength in the process of transformation.

《Transform and Grow》- Gigi, our Home Child

Gigi (alias) is a primary school girl who loves to laugh.  She is methodical, responsible, and reliable. Actually, she only learned all these after she started living in Evangel Children’s Home (ECH).

Gigi has been living in ECH for one and a half years.  At the beginning, she found it difficult to adapt to the living.  She used to live in loose life pattern without any schedule for playing and studying when she was at home.  In contrast, every child living in ECH has to follow the daily routine, obey the rules and do housework according to roster.  Together with long study time, all are not easy for Gigi.  However, with her strong adaptability, Gigi overcame and got used to adapt to a regular life in a month.  She enjoys relaxing time after completing the tasks every day.

With good care from Fiona, foster parent, Gigi could adapt to the new life quickly.

Gigi was shy when the social worker praised her for her improvement in progress.  She realized she got bad temper easily; she would be irritated especially when she came across difficulties at homework.  She thanked both her foster parents and her new school teacher for their patience to her in daily caring as well as teaching at school. She had failed in some subjects in the past but then she improved a lot and got passed. She was relieved.

Apart from academic performance, Gigi shows improvement on self-care ability.

In the past, she didn’t like sports, as she fell down easily because of her poor balance.  She was afraid of being made fun of by other children thereafter.  Later, Stella, the counsellor taught her how to enhance her balance by making use of tools through practices. Now she can play hide and seek with other children and she loves to play basketball.

The happiest gift

Gigi enjoys the life in ECH very much. In addition to receiving gifts on festivals, it is more important to know the gift of gospel.  She was told that all things around her were created after “thundering” before.  But after hearing the gospel, she knew that the world is created by our Almighty God indeed.  Due to the pandemic outbreak, she was not able to join activities at church.  So she liked to join the Sunday School at ECH, which was held by Mandy from Chaplaincy Department on Sundays.  She could listen to Bible stories, read phrases from the Bible and get to know more about God.

Gigi is a cheerful girl and she is happy to get along well with other children.  She is nominated to be a “Caring Angel” to care for other kids.  With a grateful heart, she strives to do well every day.

晴報–逆境自強—入住播道兒童之家9年 19歲男生努力進修盼做社工助人

【即使面前困難處處,但人生總有出路。現年19歲的浩文生於完整家庭,惟因父親吸毒和母親患病的緣故,他自小被送往不同家庭寄養,自卑心湧現。小三那年他被送往兒童之家,再次轉換環境令他感到不適應;猶幸獲院舍提供很多關懷和協助,浩文逐漸打開封閉而久的心扉,個性漸變開朗。至去年中學畢業,他遷往青年家舍生活,學習獨立的同時亦得到家舍多方面的協助,令他認清人生目標,盼能成為一名好社工,好好回饋社會。】轉載首段

播道兒童之家院長羅姑娘與浩文
浩文分享在疫情下考DSE的心聲

轉載自《晴報》

撰文記者:賴天兒

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《I Believe there is a Way Out》– Ho Man

Ho Man grows up from a dysfunctional family. Because of knowing God, his life is changed. Because he is loved, he learns to care for others. Adversity tempers and equips him to the career path of outreaching social work.

Re-adaptation

Ho Man’s father is an addict; his mother is also unable to take care of him because of illness. He was arranged to live in different children homes and foster families. Since year 3 in primary school, he moved to live in Evangel Children’s Home (ECH).  He had been getting along with people from different backgrounds since he was a child.  Ho Man understood that everyone would protect oneself in different ways. At the early stage, he was not good at interpersonal skills but gradually he understood others’ needs.

Ho Man said that he was very uncomfortable with the move at the early stage. At that time, the children in primary and secondary school levels in a large age gap had to live together. When he was just a little child, he found it difficult to get along with others, and his emotional behavior had been poor. He especially thanked “Sheung”, the house parent, for her patience and tolerance. She patiently taught him how to get along in a group. He began to care about the feelings of others, learn to understand emotional management, and with the help from his religion that he found love, he had the peace of mind spiritually.

Transition to live independently

Due to the lack of family support, Ho Man had to plan for his own living when he was at his young stage preparing for DSE in 2020. He was really helpless. Thanks to the assistance from social workers, he applied for accommodation in youth home. With transitional stay arrangement, he was relieved that he could advance his studies.

At youth home, he is required to manage his own finances: such as tuition and living expenses; every day after school, he has to buy food, cook, take homework and housework, and is exhausted. But Ho Man does not complain about his background. Grateful for the youth home’s offering of different workshops such as interview skills, grooming, social interaction training and personality test or else, he can understand better himself, learn about the requirements and career direction in the workplace. The life coaches give him personal guidance based on “Life Path” to explore for life.  These help add value for his transition to live independently.

Setting a Goal

As a slow-type person, Ho Man pinpointed that he is not good at interacting with people. But because of knowing God, his life is changed.  Getting out of the shadow of a negative past, and believing that God will open up the way for him, he has a different level of self-confidence. He also keeps on being grateful. He has been cared for and encouraged by social workers and house parents since he was a child. With them as role models, he has set a goal to be an outreach social worker that he could take advantage of his own experience to help others.

《Love can Build up a Sunshine Boy》– Jacky

Jacky, the resident of Youth Home, is always cheerful and polite. He comes from a single-parent family and is unable to find his roots. Growing up feeling loved help build his cheerful character.  

Love Helps his Growth

School principal found his mother mentally unstable during a home visit at his primary year 3 at primary school. Referred by social worker from school, he moved to live in Evangel Children’s Home (ECH). At that time, Jacky felt that his mother’s care is of no difference from that of ordinary family, he thought only orphans would live in the children’s home, and queried why the move. It was not until Form 3 that he understood about his mother’s mental condition and her limitations.

Jacky always has a good impression of her mother and describes her as a “supper mum” with unconditional love.  Even though he is naughty sometimes, she never beats or scolds.

Love Extends

He was still young when he first moved to children home. He often missed his mother. Due to the age difference among kids, he found it difficult to communicate with them. Besides, he had to adapt to the house rules. He became emotional and often lost his temper. With a smile, Jacky pinpointed that Paul, the house parent Paul and Joe, the social worker knew his troubles well. He thanked them for their patience and tolerance.

Love can Build

Jacky planned ahead at secondary school stage the future living as he knew that he had to leave the children home at the age of 18. Fortunately, with a chance to advance his study, he took transitional stay at the youth home from ECH.  It provides him a stable residence, and he could then concentrate on studying. The youth home conducts various workshops, such as financial management courses, career guidance; the pairing up of life coach to help him broaden his horizons, change his “hard-necked” personality. He learns also problem-solving skills and multi-angle thinking. Although his family member could not guide him, with the help of his tutor at youth home, his confidence was built up gradually. Jacky joins the workforce now as a clerk in a real estate development company. He is grateful to his colleagues for their willingness to teach him. Gradually, he has adapted to start up at work.

Jacky is a well-prepared youngster with future planning. He sincerely thanks the mentors and social workers who help him.  Though he is from a broken family, his life is filled with love, which help build up to be a sunshine boy.

有線電視–小事大意義–「愛心業主助無家青年Leo」

在寸金尺土的香港,住屋租金冠絕全球,對於家庭發生突變的青年,霎時失去居所,他們怎樣面對租屋的困難?播道兒童之家青年家舍舊宿生Leo,因遭家暴後入宿,面對有家歸不得,透過「第二人生助跑計劃」服務過渡自立。感恩得到愛心業主平租單位,更感恩是他與父親復和,還帶他返教會。 Leo發奮多年,今天,他已完成學位,有穩定工作,並有能力自住。

Leo與爸爸同住時,因與父親發生爭執,須入醫院治療。經社工介入後,入住播道兒童之家青年家舍。期間正修讀高級文憑課程,晚間做兼職維持日常開支。Leo入宿時大約19歲,是初期第二人生助跑計劃青年家舍宿生,唯青年家舍只限住2年,當時青年社區共住服務還未推出。他面對須搬出租屋,感到很徬徨,離開時還在學的他,要應付高昂租金及其他開支,經濟壓力非常大,只能在元朗的偏僻村落租住圍村套房。雖然租金較便宜大約三千多元,但交通費每月差不多要二千元,每月所賺的大部份也用在學費和交租,當時真稱不上是生活,只是為了生存而活。

在全職工作兩年後,他再一邊工作一邊修讀學位課程,因回家須趕尾班車,連放學後與同學研習功課的時間也沒有。家舍導師盡力幫助,透過教會網絡,最終找到以市值六折租金,約三千元以下租住位於太子的劏房。在太子單位居住了約4年,期間順利完成學士學位,畢業後他找到穩定工作。現在Leo已有能力租住其他單位。

Leo感恩得到「第二人生助跑計劃」的幫助,有愛心業主在經濟上的協助,讓他有空間發揮所長,給予機會自力更生。

更感恩的,是Leo入宿期間,獲家舍導師邀請參與播道會同福堂九龍東堂聚會認識福音,有一次牧師為他禱告並給他猶如父親的擁抱,把他的心軟化,聖靈一直作工,他最後與爸爸復和,還帶他返教會。

Leo最近更勇敢接受有線電視訪問,讓公眾了解那「做在小子身上的工」,那助力多大!

節目重溫:有線電視–小事大意義 [愛心業主助無家青年] (https://fb.watch/2PyIrKhyIc/)