{"id":14072,"date":"2024-03-26T10:10:19","date_gmt":"2024-03-26T02:10:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ech.org.hk\/?p=14072"},"modified":"2024-04-09T09:10:15","modified_gmt":"2024-04-09T01:10:15","slug":"%e3%80%8ait-doesnt-matter-really%e3%80%8b-elaine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ech.org.hk\/en\/%e3%80%8ait-doesnt-matter-really%e3%80%8b-elaine\/","title":{"rendered":"\u300a\u201cIt doesn\u2019t matter \u201d\u2026 Really?\u300b- Elaine"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Whenever we met Elaine (alias), she smiled always.  Whatever we told or asked her, she responded spontaneously with \u201cyes\u201d, \u201cit doesn\u2019t matter\u201d, \u201cwhatever\u201d, etc.  She has encountered many difficulties in these years and we understood her days were not easy.  We appreciated her positive attitude when we found she was temperless and willing to help others, with her smiley face on.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, we found Elaine was not really a \u201cyes-man\u201d indeed.  When she said \u201cit doesn\u2019t matter\u201d but did not mean it; her facial expression could not help disclosing her \u2018disagreement\u2019 deep inside her heart. This discrepancy made her smile not authentic at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The coach discussed this \u2018tip of iceberg\u2019 with Elaine and investigated her iceberg underwater together.  The impact from those barriers which she met in her life, made her not dare to express herself.  She thought she could avoid any conflict from peoples around her after she said \u201cyes\u201d and just accepted others\u2019 request, no matter she liked it or not. But, this would only suppress her feeling and ignore her real thought inside.  This would not help her in solving problem at all, it even made it worse repeatedly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When she knew the reason behind, she got the clue and understood there could be other way out. The coach encouraged Elaine to start how to speak out her thought and express more about her own feeling and needs.  In order to learn how to love and protect herself, Elaine had to learn not to say \u201cit doesn\u2019t matter\u201d everytime.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Whenever we met Elaine (alias), she smiled always.  Whatever we told or asked her, she responded spontaneously with \u201cyes\u201d, \u201cit doesn\u2019t matter\u201d, \u201cwhatever\u201d, etc.  She has encountered many difficulties in these years and we understood her days were not easy.  We appreciated her positive attitude when we found she was temperless and willing to help … <\/p>\n

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